..be transformed by the renewing of your mind

hahaha ( why do I always start my blog with a stupid laughter? I dunno)

I’ve just woken up from a really bad and scary dream. Maybe thought too much before I sleep. Hee.. got these on paper. Hope that all guys out there can heed my advice.

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Love is a big word. For some it’s easy to say, for others, it’s like a golden word that is very hard to drop off from their mouth. But in all, since it’s such a big word, do not take it easily, just like nobody should take marriage slightly.

Marriage is not such a big word today. Divorce is so common. I have friends getting married for less than half a year then already contemplating divorce. Everytime I was doing wedding dinner banquet as a waitress (last time), I wonder if the couples are really marrying out of love. People do get married for a variety of reasons. Some of which they think is practical can really freak you out. Anyway, I have not reach that stage yet. Fortunately.

How is it that I can talk so much when I just woke up? hmm

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Tips for Guys. How to treat a girl/girlfriend/wife

1. Respect. The all golden rule is to respect her for who she is and to accept her misgivings as a human. Respect her boundaries physically. Never invade those physical boudaries until you have married her. Do not get touchy, or she’ll treat you like a feely cockroach ( step step )
2. Clean. Be clean in your thoughts. (The girl need to dress decently also) Do not see her as a piece of degradable meat– a low form of life. Rather, see through her inner self and her soul.
3. Be gentle. A gentleman always wins. Never be harsh to your girl /wife. ( Has biblical basis. Colossians 3:19 (New International Version)19Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

   ) Be gentle in the words you use even when you are telling her something she did wrong. Never abuse her verbally or physically in anyway, even in the form of pinching.

4. Be her best friend. Be someone that she can run to and confide in, instead of someone she will run away from in fear of reprimanding.
5. Don’t feign your love/affection. Be brave and tell her when you no longer love her.
6. Mature. Be matured and clear things up during a conflict in a civilised, diplomatic and non-bararic way.
7. Forgive and forget. Forgive her for all the bad things she has done. For as God has forgiven you for your sins, you should also forgive others. Forget. Do not dwell on things/ relationships that you should let go/ forget.
8. Patience. Give her the time and space to grow as a person/ child of God. Be willing to wait when she says she got other things to attend to. Do not scold her when she does not feel like meeting you. Be patient with her when she is learning new things from you.
9. Treat her as an adult, not a child. Do not purposely make her do things that will demean her. Do not put her down by your words no matter how angry you can get with her. Especially when conflicts arise.
10. Protect her by guiding her in the decisions she make/ things she do. Give her the freedom of choice to either listen to your advice or not. If you really love her, most likely she will.
11. Be yourself especially. A girl will either love you or she won’t. No point trying too hard.
12. Most importantly, be smart. Never go after a girl unless you are very sure that you want her as your wife. ( haha)